Keeping friends for the sake of it is ruining you. — Confession time; I’m a reformed hoarder. Not of possessions, though I’m sure my husband would argue I have way too many handbags. No, I used to hoard friends. And yes, in answer to the questioning burning in your mind, it’s possible to hoard people. The problems we associate with a…

Sometimes it helps to know who you irrationally hate. — Affairs aren’t that complicated. It’s our distorted hormones and emotions that make something more than they are. In reality, affairs are simply a transaction between two people. It’s can be all business. It’s the exchange of emotion, sex and physical connection. Or it can be something far deeper. Another aspect…

It could be so many things, so quit jumping to conclusions. — Ahh, so you’re the new person in the family. Well, you might not be that new. You’re waiting oh so impatiently for your partner to introduce you to their family and friends. It’s more than time. It’s past the time. And it’s only fair, right? They know all your family…

It doesn’t have to be complicated if you don’t want it to be. — Everyone involved in the cheating experience is screwed. Let’s all rejoice in that. You don’t win, as the cheat-ee. The person who cheated doesn’t win either, even though it may seem like that. There are no winners. But for you, the one experiencing the lies and deception, you rightly feel…

Everything we realize about the single life and post-breakup fallout. — There it is. The moment. One second you’re in a relationship, the next you’re single again. It’s been a long time between single drinks, so to speak. Even if it has only been a few months, it feels like an eternity when the boom falls. And as the realization we’re…

Do it right and everyone exits the relationship unscathed. — You’ve found someone who you know is going to help you get over your ex. There are feelings, sure, but you know this person isn’t the one. They happen to be the one who is for right now, though. And you want to have your rebound relationship without getting your…

Easier said than done. But your relationship is begging for it. — Sh*t happens in relationships. There are factors that affect a pairing that you can’t control. If you didn’t know this already, a pandemic has taught us this in spades. Sometimes, we’re merely reacting to everything changing around us. But there is so much that chips away at the strength of…

The problems with complete and utter denial. — I hate that my dating resume reads “serial cheater” during certain years of my life. But I can’t change the past, as much as I would like to. Before I dared to cheat for the first time, I was the victim of cheating. My first boyfriend took advantage of our…

A guide to better divorcing, according to the modern divorcee. — Have you met GG? She’s one of my girls. I don’t remember who convinced who to move into the same little street. GG wasn’t married at the time but definitely engaged. I remember us scrambling to finish unboxing days before the wedding, so we had somewhere for the make-up and…